Size 14 Is Not Fat Either... It's Invisible

Blogging is a new thing for me.  I am learning as I go, and have just started to tell a few of my closer friends that I am doing it.

As you can probably tell, I am trying to keep my blog fairly anonymous.  That may change down the line somewhere, but the main reason for that is my identity.  My parents are both European, and although I was born in Cleveland, Ohio,  I have a very unique name as a result.  Chances are, if you Google my name, you’ll find me.  Heck, if you were to Google my first name with some key words, you’d find me.  So anonymous it is!

The few friends that are aware I have a blog have asked what the name, Beautifully Invisible, means. 

When I started this process selecting a name was actually one of the toughest things for me. 

I wanted something that would reflect the content of the blog, but also reflect me, as a person.   The name came to me one evening as I was exploring a few sample sale sites.  It seemed like every time I clicked on a skirt, pair of jeans, or dress I was interested in, the sizes stopped at 10. 

Me?  I am a pretty consistent size 14 with the occasional 12 thrown in.

At my smallest, I was a 9/10 and that was back in my college days.  And I thought I was big back then. 

Today I am confident in myself and who I am.  Could I stand to lose some weight?  Yes.  But I regularly work out and eat healthy, and it isn’t happening.  I’ve grown to accept the 14 I am now.  I know I am nice-looking, and being a size 14 doesn’t take away from that.  In fact, I am a curvy size 14, and I think that just adds to my looks if anything.  If I lose weight down the road, I won’t complain, but I am happy in the skin I am in.  Usually.

 

I haven't read this novel, but I love the title!

Back to the title of this blog.  So there I was, trying to spend my money on some gorgeous new clothes with no luck because of my measurements. 

The same thing has happened to me while checking out certain pieces on shopbop, net-a-porter, intermix and countless other sites.  

The same thing happens when I walk into certain bricks and mortar stores (especially boutiques!).   

I am out-sized of so much of the great, fashionable clothing I love. 

To make matters worse, there are some great sites out there for plus-sized woman, but my measurements are generally too small for the items they sell.  Seriously? 

So here I am, your average American size 14 wannabe-fashionista, and I can’t wear half the things I love and lust over. 

 

I love you Alexander McQueen Cashmere and Silk-Blend Sweater Dress

I am completely invisible.  How does that happen? Is this only  my imagination?

I started doing some research online and came across a great Los Angeles Times piece by Emili Vesilind that addresses this every issue:  “Fashion’s Invisible Woman.”

Turns out it’s not my imagination after all.

This quote is from the LA Times piece:

“ When Chanel designer Karl Lagerfeld, who spent most of his adult life battling a serious weight problem, created a capsule collection for H&M in 2004, the newly svelte designer was incensed that the retailer manufactured the collection in larger sizes. "What I designed was fashion for slender and slim people," he said. And in an interview in the March issue of Harper's Bazaar, he sniffed, "The body has to be impeccable . . . if it's not, buy small sizes and less food."

This, my friends, seems to be the philosophy that too many of the designers out there follow today.

Yes, there are designers out there who DO have lines for us “bigger” girls.  But not enough. 

Yes, there are non-high fashion brands I absolutely adore out there that sell size 14s.

Like H&M and Ann Taylor Loft for instance.  But make sure you buy what you want ASAP because that size 14 will be out of stock very quickly.   

I love shopping at Nordstrom, but I am usually sized out of items in their high-fashion Savvy Department.    

There are some great boutiques in the Cleveland-area as well, like Banyan Tree, but again, I am often sized out of clothing because the designer simply doesn’t make the item in my size.

There are so many blogs out there that I admire, and blogger’s whose style I admire, but sometimes I am too afraid to even try to buy from a new source because of the sheer possibility I will be disappointed.  

So I stick to what I know works.  And I have mile-long lists of things I want to buy but can’t because I am invisible.

Guess I'll have to stick to spending my hard-earned cash on accessories and shoes! 

 

 





I love you Proenza Schouler PS1 medium leather satchel.

I love you Yves Saint Laurent Tribute Suede Sandals.

(All images either from google images or net-a-porter)

Get It Today: N.Y.L.A. Bande Caged Sandals

Each day I set aside some time to check out some of my favorite blogs from around the blogosphere.

One of my favorites is I am Style-ish.  Tiffany has impecible taste, is a great photographer, and she has a shoe collection that Carrie Bradshaw would kill for.

Back in March Tiffany posted a blog entitled “The same but different” where she posted a few budget alternatives to some of the fabulous shoes she owns.

Although I loved just about everything she listed in that post, my absolute favorites were these black N.Y.L.A. Bande Caged Sandals:

The N.Y.L.A.'s were listed as an alternative to the L.A.M.B. sandals she is wearing here:

 

Image property of I am Style-ish

Almost identical, right?

Unfortunately, as is too often the case with me, I waited a bit too long to spring for these and they sold out at Nordstroms.   I was not happy.

Fast forward to this morning.  

I was checking out today's email from RowNine (another one of those sample sale sites) when I saw that they have a NYLA boutique featured until 11PM ET tonight!

And better yet, the Bande sandal is one of the styles included.  For $64.95 (50% off retail)!  SOLD!

If you have been looking for these sandals check out the sale at RowNine today!  It closes at 11PM ET.

If you need an invite click here (full disclosure, if you sign up through me I'll get a credit to my account)

Happy shopping!

*Beautifully Invisible* is no longer listed as in a relationship

Remember the good old days when breaking up was easy? OK – maybe breaking up with someone has never been easy. Break-ups always were and always will be difficult. They should be difficult. They should make you cry. They should make you want to eat ungodly amounts of ice cream. They should make you want to go on a shopping spree. They should make you want to get a makeover. A haircut. Some killer shoes. Whatever.

All of those things make sense. They are paths along the road back to normalcy.

Enter social media. Specifically, enter the facebook “relationship status”.

You start dating someone.

You fall in love with that person.

You are filled with such joy and happiness you want to dance in the streets.

Sing in the rain.

Shout it from the rooftops.

So you update your facebook status to “is in a relationship”. That is kind of like shouting your joy from a rooftop. Only safer.

Then… you break-up.

And you are heartbroken.

And you have to somehow deal with the emptiness and grief you are feeling. Even though it seems impossible.

You attempt to hide at least some of your pain from the world, so they don't see the depths of your despair.

And then you realize, you have to change your stupid f%#&ing facebook status. Because you are no longer in a relationship.

So you change it.

And then - so does he.

And you feel like you broke up all over again. Only this time EVERYONE in the CIVILIZED world was witness to it.

Breaking up once was bad enough.

Stupid status.

Now I need TWO pairs of killer shoes.